Recognizing our daily distractions some that unknowingly turn into addictions, can help us monitor and adjust accordingly so we may put deliberate energy into priorities and remove energy from things that aren’t. Feeding the audience isn’t a bad thing, but we must feed ourselves before we can provide for others. Learning how to nourish ourselves is an ongoing process that can change over time as we get to know ourselves better. Things that used to feed our mind, body, and soul when we were 12 years old may not be the things that feed us now. But perhaps going back to our childhood to remember the innocent exploration that brought us joy would be a good place to start when having trouble departing from typical ideas of self-care.
Creating a menu of five things that make each one of the five-senses happy could be an option too. Taking the time to tap into how we feel when each of the senses is aroused creates an entire body experience that can help us to remove ourselves from a busy mind. Some of the most popular podcasts rotate inspirational, high-achieving professionals. Nightly news anchors talk about screen dependency, how our phones go on airplane mode or in a pile on the table during a meeting, how we’re literally always on. We’re getting better though.
Boundaries and prioritizing self-care can break addiction. Boundaries put into action will impact day-to-day activities, adding large improvements to the bigger picture. Mix that with something from your sense menu and you could have a winning combination of dedicated focus. My grandmother was a wellness and addiction coach in the 1980’s – long before The Secret was poppin’ or yoga became mainstream. Her rule was: it takes 21 days to break or make a habit. Imagine my surprise when I come to find out in my adult life that this is actually a proven statistic.
I mean, let’s face it, grandmothers are always right because they have lived more life than we have. By imparting a simple 21-day rule to anything we want to change, we are on our way to becoming more accountable to ourselves. We know the social stage is always here and it’s up to us how we participate. The sense of who we are comes greatly through the way we perceive the presentation of ourselves —the goal of this presentation being acceptance from an audience and our carefully curated performance. If we’re successful, our audience will view us in the way we’ve set out to be viewed. This can be achieved with balance. With all action comes reaction. In order to accomplish our desired outcomes, we must not only satisfy the audience, we must also apply care to the actor – the vessel in which the messages are translated.